Goals are like clothes. Sometimes we outgrow them. Or, they become moth-eaten with the tags still on when we haven’t done anything about them. So we may have to regretfully throw them away.
Our true values, not the ones we say are important to us but that we actually live out of, are what drive our outcomes. When I reflect on what matters to me most at this point in my life I come up with the following values: Ease and flow, prosperity, creativity, relevance, and friendship.
Last year I would say they were similar, but looking back reveals to me that I was living out of consistency, solitude, comfort, safety, and pleasure.
If I were retiring, there would be nothing wrong with continuing to live out of those values. But I wish to stay in business, so if I’m honest, they’re inappropriate.
If I want to retain a viable coaching business, I need to live out different values in shaping and realizing my goals. For instance, what I’ve done consistently needs to change or evolve if I want to create prosperity.
Ease and flow while taking new actions need to replace feeling safe and comfortable with the old actions I’ve been taking consistently…. even though they’ve stopped working.
For example, I may have to pick up the phone more often, not just write emails. How might I do that with ease and flow? Because it sure doesn’t seem safe and comfortable.
Thus goes the challenge of the coming year. It will take creativity to build relevance. Deeper friendships and collegial relationships may need to come at the expense of a certain degree of solitude.
What were the values you actually lived out of in 2024? How do they need to shift so that you evolve into what you want to become in 2025?
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