The Disappointing Futility of Perfectionism

Why Your Inner ‘Prosecutor’ Doesn’t Really Know What’s Best, and How to Shut It Up How do you talk to yourself?  Are you encouraging or critical? Is your opinion of what you’ve accomplished ever ‘good enough’ or is it never enough?  Do you feel shame and...

Forgoing Expectations and Breaking Boundaries

Advice for Getting Past Society’s Status Quo If you’re lucky, you’ll reach your “golden years”.  Whenever you think those are.  I used to think 60 was old. Now when I hear someone has left the building at 75, I am heartbroken on their behalf because that...

Hut Hut Hike! How to Tackle Your Biggest Goals

Do you know the difference between a goal and a pipe-dream?Deadlines, deadlines, deadlines!(Wish I could claim I came up with that, but I didn’t.)Some say depending on the type of goal this is not necessarily true.  Personally I have found that doing stuff ‘by when’...

Developing Consistency with ADHD

‘Having a system in place to create positive reinforcement and accountability when you know something is good for you (but it doesn’t come naturally) is vital.’ Consistency in humans varies depending on their neurocircuitry. ‘Neuro-typical’s find it easier...
Adult ADHD Tips to Cut Through Every Day Distractions

Adult ADHD Tips to Cut Through Every Day Distractions

Oh boy, my social media company wants me to come up with a tip sheet!  Okay, I’m feeling distracted right now. Not always, but often enough, distraction is a form of resistance. It’s why many writers have such clean kitchens. Nothing gets the housework going like...
Self-Actualization During Stressful Times

Self-Actualization During Stressful Times

Self-Actualization, according to Merriam Webster, means to “realize fully one’s potential”.   The order of these words is important.  To “realize fully” means that you can still realize some of your potential along the lines of a continuum on the...
Can’t Stay Motivated? Been There!

Can’t Stay Motivated? Been There!

Let me disabuse you of something right now: Nobody stays motivated.  That would be like a car never running out of gas, or a battery that never needs recharging. You wouldn’t turn back on a road trip the first time you needed to hit the gas pump, would you? ...
What is Emotional Intelligence, Really?

What is Emotional Intelligence, Really?

Emotional intelligence, or EI, is the ability to identify what you are feeling and manage that feeling rather than suppress it.  Which doesn’t necessarily mean express it, because another attribute of emotional intelligence is understanding the impact that your...
Want to Build Self Esteem? It Starts With Commitment.

Want to Build Self Esteem? It Starts With Commitment.

Dean struggles with self-esteem.  He really doesn’t like himself too much. Why? Because nothing wears down self-esteem like over-promising and under-delivering.   He didn’t specifically know it when he signed on as a client, but he’s getting coached to...
Mindfulness: Lessons from the Ashram

Mindfulness: Lessons from the Ashram

Mindfulness.  It’s really mindlessness, isn’t it? I mean, isn’t it about the cessation of the constant yapping of the mind? So I never understood the reverse use of the expression, mindFULness…but that’s how people hashtag-search it, so here goes. I lived...