{"id":2871,"date":"2018-01-23T22:43:14","date_gmt":"2018-01-24T03:43:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/createcalling.wpengine.com\/?p=2871"},"modified":"2018-01-25T07:43:04","modified_gmt":"2018-01-25T12:43:04","slug":"forgive-let-go-grow","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/creativecallingcoaching.com\/forgive-let-go-grow\/","title":{"rendered":"Forgive, Let Go and Grow Up"},"content":{"rendered":"

The best definition I\u2019ve ever heard of the word “clutter” was the use of it as a verb:
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\nTo “clutter,” is an attempt to stop the passage of time.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why we hold on to stuff. \u00a0Yeah, it might be valuable one day. \u00a0But most of it won\u2019t. \u00a0We may use or need it again. \u00a0But probably not.<\/span><\/p>\n

In reality, the space its taking up is more valuable than the object itself.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve heard the word “adult” used as a verb lately as well, as in “the failure to adult.”<\/span><\/p>\n

This, too, is an attempt to stop the passage of time. \u00a0Whatever is in the way of taking full responsibility for our life and career is a failure to adult.<\/span><\/p>\n

Wherever you\u2019re not taking responsibility makes it feel as though you\u2019re just starting out and can\u2019t be expected to be very far along (even if you\u2019ve been in business for 20 years)…or worse, makes it feel as though somebody else should be doing the work for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not taking responsibility for something in your life = failure to “adult” in that area.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is not to say that you should do everything yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not childish to delegate. \u00a0On the contrary; an adult business person knows where her attention and energy is needed. \u00a0\u00a0Which means she does not take refuge in repetitive administrative tasks when she has other responsibilities only she can meet.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not childish to hire a coach in an area where you\u2019re not creating sufficient progress on your own\u00a0because you don\u2019t have the knowledge to do so, either.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, to deny you need help and support in those areas is childish.<\/span><\/p>\n

So in what areas of life have you not quite grown up? \u00a0We all have them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Which reminds me of a sign on the door of someone\u2019s office that said “it’s never too late to have a happy childhood.”<\/span><\/p>\n

When I saw that I thought “poppycock!” \u00a0(No, I\u2019m sure what I thought was much saltier.)<\/span><\/p>\n

But now when I think about it, I realize that sign was an invitation to reparent myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

For me, getting out of bed in the morning when I don\u2019t have something or someone to show up for, is a struggle.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is literally, physically painful.<\/span><\/p>\n

As though rising before 11 am will cause me to hurt myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

As though someone were literally lying on top of me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019ve figured out that the someone lying on top of me is the girl who could lie in her room depressed, for hours, and no one would come to check on her. \u00a0No one supported her in moving past that despair.<\/span><\/p>\n

“Why” doesn\u2019t matter. \u00a0The adults in that house hadn\u2019t “adulted” yet. \u00a0They were in too much pain themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

The fact is that getting out of bed before 11 on a day without appointments <\/span>is about me showing up for myself.<\/b><\/p>\n

Now that I realize that, I can\u2019t just lie there and pretend not to know it.<\/span><\/p>\n

And that\u2019s what gets me up.<\/span><\/p>\n

So in what areas do you need to adult? \u00a0How can you compassionately show up for yourself?<\/span><\/p>\n

To succeed as a creative entrepreneur, reparenting yourself in those areas is the work that needs to be done.<\/span><\/p>\n

But you don\u2019t have to do it alone.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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