{"id":3133,"date":"2018-09-18T22:06:12","date_gmt":"2018-09-19T02:06:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/createcalling.wpengine.com\/?p=3133"},"modified":"2018-10-26T05:26:46","modified_gmt":"2018-10-26T09:26:46","slug":"what-if-trauma-is-normal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/creativecallingcoaching.com\/what-if-trauma-is-normal\/","title":{"rendered":"What if trauma is normal?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It took me a long time to realize that many experiences in my life qualify as traumatic. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s because I believed what qualified as trauma could only be the result of horrific things happening on a grand scale. \u00a0Seeing combat, being raped, suddenly losing your home and your loved ones to natural or man-made disasters. Trauma, to my mind, were horrors that happened beyond the realm of day-to-day upsets like difficult relatives, being verbally bullied or struggling at work or school. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Despite the dramatic ring of that word,<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> trauma i<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s really quite <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ordinary<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trauma is actually anything of an upsetting nature (which is quite subjective) <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that goes beyond one&#8217;s capacity to cope.<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0Now, our capacity to cope is developed over time, so if this capacity is challenged too early, which it so easily is, such challenges damage the mind. \u00a0Ergo, trauma. I\u2019m pretty certain everybody\u2019s got some.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But here\u2019s the thing: just how irreparably damaged our minds become,<\/span><b> is relative to our ability to work on our mindset.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0Most of us start out with a \u2018<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stress is harmful\u2019<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> mindset. \u00a0This cultivates fragility. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, a <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2018stress is enhancing<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2019 mindset can turn PTSD: (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder), into PTSG (Post-Traumatic Stress Growth). \u00a0This allows us to cultivate what is called \u2018anti-fragility\u2019, as referred to in my previous <a href=\"https:\/\/createcalling.wpengine.com\/2018\/05\/black-swans-and-antifragility\/\">posts<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/CreativeCallingCoaching\/videos\/1375070012627005\/\">videos<\/a>. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My man Brian Johnson has done a fantastic job of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.optimize.me\/philosophers-notes\/the-upside-of-stress-kelly-mcgonigal\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">summarizing the great work of Kelly McGonigal in her book The Upside of Stress. <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to learn some life-changing \u2018mindset interventions\u2019 for leveraging stress, (and I know you do \u2018cause you\u2019re reading this), I suggest you click the link above right now!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It took me a long time to realize that many experiences in my life qualify as traumatic. \u00a0 &nbsp; That&#8217;s because I believed what qualified as trauma could only be [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3134,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,166,24],"tags":[231],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v22.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>What if trauma is normal? 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