It can be comforting to label ourselves.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At best, a medical diagnosis of ADHD creates a sense of separation between what you perceive as your faults and who you really are. For example there is a relief when you realize that you\u2019re \u201cnot just lazy\u201d. An ADHD diagnosis can allow you to let go of the shame associated with not knowing any other way to operate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Some people need a diagnosis before feeling worthy of paying for help. If that\u2019s you, please understand that it\u2019s not necessary <\/em><\/strong>(unless you need your job to pick up the tab because HR requires the qualifying diagnosis of \u201cdisability\u201d in order to do so.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n If someone is unhappy with their level of achievement and quality of life, it isn\u2019t necessary to get permission in order to receive help. I believe we all do the best we can given our current knowledge and beliefs and we are all worthy of support in order to learn and improve ourselves. As a coach, it is not my place to diagnose nor do I need each client to have a diagnosis. I simply help them manage or eradicate the traits that hinder the path towards their goals. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Certain people might be better off without labels like \u2018ADHD\u2019 because, beyond the relief of understanding the \u201cwhy\u201d of their self-limiting behavior, they begin using the diagnosis as an excuse for not doing the work<\/strong> to figure out how to best function in the \u201cneurotypical\u201d world. As a coach, I\u2019ve seen people falter in their development because of this victim mindset. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you already have a diagnosis, be very wary of over-identifying with it. It isn\u2019t who you are.<\/strong> If you mistakenly believe that it is, you may find it very difficult to believe you can improve your life. You can. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you been through a lot of self-improvement and private coaching yet are feeling discouraged, that is an instance in which you very well may want to find out what\u2019s going on medically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You may need a diagnosis in order to access meds that will allow you to do the work<\/em> to change your behavior. For many people it takes both \u201cpills and skills\u201d in order to create positive change.\u00a0Please don\u2019t let anyone tell you there\u2019s anything wrong with that.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It can be comforting to label ourselves.\u00a0 At best, a medical diagnosis of ADHD creates a sense of separation between what you perceive as your faults and who you really […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":371961,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"\n Stress can be either helpful or unhelpful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, for some people, procrastination creates the stress needed to focus. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Unfortunately, the procrastination used in cultivating the stress that spits out a term paper at the last minute is a road paved with anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So what is anxiety? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Anxiety is worrying in advance. It is a state of fear in response to a future event or occurrence. Anxiety is generated by worry, and worry, simply put, is an abuse of the imagination. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ergo, unlike stress, anxiety is never useful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So if you find yourself worrying a lot, you\u2019ve got anxiety. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re cranking something out for twelve hours straight day after day because you find yourself in either a state of hyperfocus or an inability to slow down and relax without the aid of intoxicants, you\u2019re stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In the above case of negative stress, you\u2019ve probably set yourself up with a lot of anxiety leading up to execution, versus planning well in advance and working incrementally. <\/p>\n\n\n\n A little eustress is good. You can\u2019t win a race without it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But the distress we often find ourselves in is what leads us to quit before we finish something. Leaving something incomplete due to distress only reinforces that pattern.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s a problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In a way, the answer to the question \u201cAm I stressed or is it anxiety\u201d is the wrong question because you\u2019re probably not asking it just to satisfy your curiosity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n What you want is an antidote to both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The antidote to both stress and anxiety is called planning. Planning time for the steps and stages of a project. Planning time with family. Planning time to meditate. Planning to get away and recharge. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Planning is a learnable skill. If you don\u2019t think you\u2019re good at it, then that just means you need to find a teacher and start to practice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A coach is a teacher of planning, but not just any plan, your plan. The plan hidden inside you. That\u2019s the plan we coaches are trained to help you excavate and execute. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So whether you\u2019re stressed or anxious, chances are your plans could use an upgrade. Time step outside and take a look at your modus operandi, if you have one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If not, it\u2019s time to call an expert.<\/p>\n","_et_gb_content_width":"","_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[68,16,304,305,306],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n