Giving Back

Giving Back

I know I have ‘arrived’… someplace at any rate because I have been able to start ‘giving back’.   Contrary to popular belief, ‘giving back’ does not necessarily mean you have to go out looking for ways to do it, as though you ‘should’ give...
Destigmatizing Sales

Destigmatizing Sales

‘I hate marketing my work.  I feel like I’m selling.’ Heaven forbid! There are many well-earned reasons why sales has a bad rap.  It’s gotten confused with manipulation and Machiavellian intent….because some people are manipulators with Machiavellian intent....
Don’t Pathologize Pain

Don’t Pathologize Pain

Sometimes, despite being right on point with our purpose and goals, we experience ‘negative’ moods and emotions and forget that they’re nothing more than the weather: they always pass. When we forget this fact, it’s not uncommon to think our feelings mean that...
Ontological Versus Psychological

Ontological Versus Psychological

Many years ago, my very first coach David Dowd said that ‘coaching is ontological, not psychological.’ That sounded so fucking smart.  So smart that as a coach myself I started quoting him whenever clients started wandering into ‘Why’-ville so heavily that it...
Use Your Mistakes to Coach Yourself

Use Your Mistakes to Coach Yourself

One of the biggest obstacles my clients must learn to overcome is self-judgment. This is how self-judgment works: When something doesn’t go your way, you take it as a condemnation of yourself.  As if no external factors exist. ‘Mistakes’ happens when something...
The Choice of Indecision

The Choice of Indecision

I don’t believe in fear of success.  Because I believe that everyone is successful.   Oh, horses*&t! No, really.  Because success is what will make us happy, right?  Well, the reason we’re all successful is that the primitive part of our...